After about 6 months of unsuccessfully trying to get knocked up, I decided we needed help. I know it can take up to a year to get pregnant, but I am impatient!
I met with my reg Ob-gyn and M (DH) had a SA (semen analysis). After taking a quick look at the results, my doctor recommended we meet with a RE (reproductive endocrinologist).
So, here I was…I was on my way to meet the person who would hopefully be able to give us some answers, Dr. L.
Unfortunately, due to work and traffic, M couldn’t get there. So I walked in the office and immediately was embarrassed and slightly humiliated. All of these people knew why I was here! We can’t get pregnant, something must be wrong with us. I had to remind myself they are here for the same reason. People in the waiting room would sort of just give you a quick nod or small small. If you run or bike, it was sort of like that acknowledgement that you get from others out of the trail “Yep, I am out here doing the same thing, it sucks, but it’s who we are, right?”. It was sort of like that.
After the nurse took my vitals, I was called back to see Dr. L. He was a little younger than I expected, but young can be good. After some preliminary questions and a refresh of sex ed, we talked about the game plan. Finally- a plan!! His preliminary recommendation was an IUI. We won’t know if that’s the road we will take until we have some additional tests run. The next steps are: a repeat SA (to verify the last test wasn’t a fluke), a HSG (hysterosalpingogram to make sure my fallopian tubes are open), and baseline testing for me, including a ultrasound. Since the HSG and baseline testing need to be done on certain days on your cycle, I bust out my calendar and figure out when I can have everything done ASAP. No point in dragging this out!
Before I left, I asked Dr. L what our odds are if we continue trying naturally compared to IUI (or IVF). He said we were looking at 3-5% naturally, 10-15% with IUI and up to 40% with IVF. Just for reference, most healthy “average” couples have around 20% chance of getting pregnant each month. (Disclaimer: this also depends on the woman’s age, nature is not nice to women over 35)
After the appointment, I told M all of this and he I think they only said was “ok”, “sounds good” and then the one thing that shows his personality more than anything “So, you’re saying there’s a chance?”.
His optimism is encouraging. Yes, there is a chance. Our road might be a little bumpy and it might not be the most direct route, but it’s our road. I am happy it’s M standing beside me as we walk down it.